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  Copyright © 2005 by Anne Lamott

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  Contents

  monet refuses the operation

  one ham of god

  two red cords

  three sam’s dad

  four o noraht, noraht

  five holy of holies 101

  six this dog’s life

  seven adolescence

  eight sincere meditations

  nine heat

  ten hard rain

  eleven good friday world

  twelve diamond heart

  thirteen untitled

  fourteen ’joice to the world

  fifteen holding on

  sixteen one hand clapping

  seventeen loving your president: day 2

  eighteen scattering the present

  nineteen flower girl

  twenty sam’s brother

  twenty-one falling better

  twenty-two cruise ship

  twenty-three let us commence

  twenty-four market street

  also by anne lamott

  Blue Shoe

  Traveling Mercies

  Crooked Little Heart

  Bird by Bird

  Operating Instructions

  All New People

  Joe Jones

  Rosie

  Hard Laughter

  For Rory

  I am deeply grateful to David Talbot, editor in chief of Salon.com, who published much of this material in earlier form. I am just about the only overtly spiritual person he can stand, but even so he has always given me absolute freedom and unwavering support. Lori Leibovich, my editor at Salon, has shown me total patience, friendship, and great editing.

  My friends are the reason I have so much faith in God, and I owe special thanks to the people who help me with my work: Neshama Franklin, Tom Weston, Mark Childress, Geneen Roth, Doug Foster, and Anne Huffington. And thank you, Karl Fleming, for your faith in me, and your letters saying so. I tape them to the wall beside my desk. Robyn Posin, where would I be without you?

  Cindy Spiegel at Riverhead is a great, challenging editor and friend. Anna Jardine is a tough, cool, reputation-saving copy editor.

  I would be grateful even to know someone who is as both loving and savvy as Sarah Chalfant, and here she’s my agent— along with the incomparable Andrew Wylie.

  And I would not be here were it not for the love, support, and wisdom of the people of St. Andrew Presbyterian Church, Marin City, California, and the Reverend Ms. Veronica Goines. Their deep faith and love of God, and life, have changed my world forever: they taught me by their witness that no matter how hard life seems at times, we can still—in the words of Warren Zevon—enjoy every sandwich; and give thanks.

  monet refuses the operation

  Doctor, you say there are no halos

  around the streetlights in Paris

  and what I see is an aberration

  caused by old age, an affliction.

  I tell you it has taken me all my life

  to arrive at the vision of gas lamps as angels,

  to soften and blur and finally banish

  the edges you regret I don’t see,

  to learn that the line I called the horizon

  does not exist and sky and water,

  so long apart, are the same state of being.

  Fifty-four years before I could see

  Rouen cathedral is built

  of parallel shafts of sun,

  and now you want to restore

  my youthful errors: fixed

  notions of top and bottom,

  the illusion of three-dimensional space,

  wisteria separate

  from the bridge it covers.

  What can I say to convince you

  the Houses of Parliament dissolve

  night after night to become

  the fluid dream of the Thames?

  I will not return to a universe

  of objects that don’t know each other,

  as if islands were not the lost children

  of one great continent. The world

  is flux, and light becomes what it touches,

  becomes water, lilies on water,

  above and below water,

  becomes lilac and mauve and yellow

  and white and cerulean lamps,

  small fists passing sunlight

  so quickly to one another

  that it would take long, streaming hair

  inside my brush to catch it.

  To paint the speed of light!

  Our weighted shapes, these verticals,

  burn to mix with air

  and change our bones, skin, clothes

  to gases. Doctor,

  if only you could see

  how heaven pulls earth into its arms

  and how infinitely the heart expands

  to claim this world, blue vapor without end.

  —LISEL MUELLER

  one

  ham of god

  On my forty-ninth birthday, I decided that all of life was hopeless, and I would eat myself to death. These are desert days. Better to go out by our own hands than to endure slow death by scolding at the hands of the Bush administration. However, after a second cup of coffee, I realized that I couldn’t kill myself that morning—not because it was my birthday but because I�
��d promised to get arrested the next day. I had been arrested three weeks earlier with an ecumenical bunch of religious peaceniks, people who still believe in Dr. King and Gandhi. Also, my back was out. I didn’t want to die in crone mode. Plus, there was no food in the house. So I took a long, hot shower instead and began another day of being gloated to death.

  Everyone I know has been devastated by Bush’s presidency and, in particular, our country’s heroic military activities overseas. I can usually manage a crabby hope that there is meaning in mess and pain, that more will be revealed, and that truth and beauty will somehow win out in the end. But I’d been struggling as my birthday approached. So much had been stolen from us by Bush, from the very beginning of his reign, and especially since he went to war in Iraq. I wake up some mornings pinned to the bed by centrifugal sadness and frustration. A friend called to wish me Happy Birthday, and I remembered something she’d said many years ago, while reading a Vanity Fair article about Hitler’s affair with his niece. “I have had it with Hitler,” Peggy said vehemently, throwing the magazine to the floor. And I’d had it with Bush.

  Hadn’t the men in the White House ever heard of the word karma? They lied their way into taking our country to war, crossing another country’s borders with ferocious military might, trying to impose our form of government on a sovereign nation, without any international agreement or legal justification, and set about killing the desperately poor on behalf of the obscenely rich. Then we’re instructed, like naughty teenagers, to refrain from saying that it was an immoral war that set a disastrous precedent—because to do so is to offer aid and comfort to the enemy.

  While I was thinking about all this, my Jesuit friend Father Tom called. He is one of my closest friends, a few years older than I, a scruffy aging Birkenstock type, like me, who gives lectures and leads retreats on spirituality. Usually he calls to report on the latest rumors of my mental deterioration, drunkenness, or promiscuity, how sick it makes everyone to know that I am showing all my lady parts to the neighbors. But this time he called to wish me Happy Birthday.

  “How are we going to get through this craziness?” I asked. There was silence for a moment.

  “Left foot, right foot, left foot, breathe,” he said.

  Father Tom loves the desert. A number of my friends do. They love the skies that pull you into infinity, like the ocean. They love the silence, and how, if you listen long enough, the pulse of the desert begins to sound like the noise your finger makes when you run it around the rim of a crystal glass. They love the scary beauty—snakes, lizards, scorpions, the kestrels and hawks. They love the mosaics of water-washed pebbles on the desert floor, small rocks that cast huge shadows, a shoot of vegetation here, a wildflower there.

  I like the desert for short periods of time, from inside a car, with the windows rolled up and the doors locked. I prefer beach resorts with room service. But liberals have been in the desert for several years now, and I’m worn out. Some days I hardly know what to pray for. Peace? Well, whatever.

  So the morning of my birthday, because I couldn’t pray, I did what Matisse once said to do: “I don’t know if I believe in God or not. . . . But the essential thing is to put oneself in a frame of mind which is close to that of prayer.” I closed my eyes, and got quiet. I tried to look like Mother Mary, with dreadlocks and a bad back.

  But within seconds, I was frantic to turn on the TV. I was in withdrawal—I needed more scolding from Donald Rumsfeld, and more malignant celebration of what everyone agreed, in April 2003, was a great victory for George W. Bush. So we couldn’t find those stupid weapons of mass destruction—pick, pick, pick. I didn’t turn on the TV. I kept my eyes closed, and breathed. I started to feel crazy, and knew that all I needed was five minutes of CNN. I listened to the birds sing outside, and it was like Chinese water torture, which I am sure we don’t say anymore. Then I remembered the weekend when 11 million people in the world marched for peace, how joyful it was to be part of the stirrings of a great movement. My pastor, Veronica, says that peace is joy at rest, and joy is peace on its feet, and I felt both that weekend.

  I lay on the floor with my eyes closed for so long that my dog, Lily, came over and worriedly licked me back to life. That cheered me up. “What did you get me for my birthday?” I asked. She started to chew on my head. That helped. Maybe the old left is dead, but after we’ve rested awhile we can prepare for something new. I don’t know who on the left can lead us away from the craziness and barbarity: I’m very confused now. But I know that in the desert, you stay out of the blistering sun. You go out during the early morning, and in the cool of the evening. You seek oasis, shade, safety, refreshment. There’s every hue of green, and of gold. But I’m only pretending to think it’s beautiful; I find it terribly scary. I walk on eggshells, and hold my breath.

  I called Tom back.

  He listened quietly. I asked him for some good news.

  He thought. “Well,” he said finally. “My cactuses are blooming. Last week they were ugly and reptilian, and now they are bursting with red and pink blossoms. They don’t bloom every year, so you have to love them while they’re here.”

  “I hate cactuses,” I said. “I want to know what to do. Where we even start.”

  “We start by being kind to ourselves. We breathe, we eat. We remember that God is present wherever people suffer. God’s here with us when we’re miserable, and God is there in Iraq. The suffering of innocent people draws God close to them. Kids hit by U.S. bombs are not abandoned by God.”

  “Well, it sure looks like they were,” I said. “It sure looks that way to their parents.”

  “It also looked like Christ had been abandoned on the cross. It looked like a win for the Romans.”

  “How do we help? How do we not lose our minds?”

  “You take care of the suffering.”

  “I can’t get to Iraq.”

  “There are folks who are miserable here.”

  After we got off the phone, I ate a few birthday chocolates. Then I asked God to help me be helpful. It was the first time that day that I felt my prayers were sent, and then received—like e-mail. I tried to cooperate with grace, which is to say, I did not turn on the TV. I asked God to help me again. The problem with God—or at any rate, one of the top five most annoying things about God—is that He or She rarely answers right away. It can take days, weeks. Some people seem to understand this—that life and change take time. Chou En-lai, when asked, “What do you think of the French Revolution?” paused for a minute—smoking incessantly—then replied, “Too soon to tell.” I, on the other hand, am an instant-message type. It took decades for Bush to destroy the Iraqi army in three weeks.

  But I prayed: Help me. And then I drove to the market in silence, to buy my birthday dinner.

  I flirted with everyone in the store, especially the old people, and I lightened up. When the checker finished ringing up my items, she looked at my receipt and cried, “Hey! You’ve won a ham!”

  I felt blindsided by the news. I had asked for help, not a ham. This was very disturbing. What on earth was I going to do with ten pounds of salty pink eraser? I rarely eat it. It makes you bloat.

  “Wow,” I said. The checker was so excited about giving it to me that I pretended I was, too.

  How great!

  A bagger was dispatched to the back of the store to fetch my ham. I stood waiting anxiously. I wanted to go home, so I could start caring for suffering people, or turn on CNN. I almost suggested that the checker award the ham to the next family who paid with food stamps. But for some reason, I waited. If God was giving me a ham, I’d be crazy not to receive it. Maybe it was the ham of God, who takes away the sins of the world.

  I waited ten minutes for what I began to think of as “that fucking ham.” Finally the bag boy handed me a parcel the size of a cat. I put it with feigned cheer into my grocery cart, and walked to the car, trying to figure out who might need it. I thought about chucking the parcel out the window near a field. I was so distracte
d that I crashed my cart smack into a slow-moving car in the parking lot.

  I started to apologize, when I noticed that the car was a rusty wreck, and that an old friend was at the wheel. We got sober together a long time ago, and each of us had a son at the same time. She has dark black skin and processed hair the color of cooled tar.

  She opened her window. “Hey,” I said. “How are you—it’s my birthday!”

  “Happy Birthday,” she said, and started crying. She looked drained and pinched, and after a moment, she pointed to her gas gauge. “I don’t have money for gas, or food. I’ve never asked for help from a friend since I got sober, but I’m asking you to help me.”

  “I’ve got money,” I said.

  “No, no, I just need gas,” she said. “I’ve never asked someone for a handout.”

  “It’s not a handout,” I told her. “It’s my birthday present.” I thrust a bunch of money into her hand, everything I had. Then I reached into my shopping cart and held out the ham to her like a clown offering flowers. “Hey!” I said. “Do you and your kids like ham?”

  “We love it,” she said. “We love it for every meal.”

  She put it in the seat beside her, firmly, lovingly, as if she were about to strap it in. And she cried some more.

  Later, thinking about her, I remembered the seasonal showers in the desert, how potholes in the rocks fill up with rain. When you look later, there are already frogs in the water, and brine shrimp reproducing, like commas doing the macarena; and it seems, but only seems, that you went from parched to overflow in the blink of an eye.

  two

  red cords

  I wear something on my wrist that one would not expect a Presbyterian woman to wear: a thin red cotton cord that was blessed by the Dalai Lama, and given to me by my Buddhist friend Jack Kornfield. It’s quite ratty, with what look like rings of laundry lint circling it. I separate these rings with my thumbnail when I am fidgety, as if counting with the beads of an abacus.

  Jack and I take walks every few weeks, when we are both in town, often in the hills above the meditation center he founded nearby. He teaches his students, and has taught me, to slow down, breathe, and take care of everyone, which is of course the same message Jesus taught—that breath is our connection to holy spirit, to our bodies, minds, and soul; and that if the devil can’t get you to sin, he’ll keep you busy. Jack is about my age and height, slight and very Jewish: he brought me homemade chicken soup last time I was sick in bed. He also seems vaguely East Indian, smooth and brown, and gives off a light, spicy, ancient smell.